Monday, March 15, 2010


I need your help on this one. I am sitting here trying to ponder what just happened. I consider myself fairly strong willed and able to give my opinion when I think it is necessary, but I am stumped on this one. I would love your comment as to what exactly I did wrong.

Monday Night 5:30 p.m.

"Hello, did you have a good day at work and at school, my dear family?" "Why don't we spend some time together tonight and all of us go to a movie."

" I have been wanting to see 'The Blind Side' for a few weeks." " I heard it was great and would be a good family movie, something we could watch together." You know, create a memorable evening, maybe even give us something to discuss, something to "bond us".

Man and child, both agree, they would like to go to a movie.

However, Man would like to see "Alice" as in "Alice in Wonderland". I am 55, he is 60 child is 14, who the hell wants to see Alice in Wonderland, I didn't like it when I was little and I am pretty sure I won't like it now. Although I do have a certain fondness for Johnnie Depp in a Pirate Outfit.

I spoke up, I said, I don't want to see "Alice" is there something else? No, it doesn't appear so. therefore, they just left for "Alice" and even invited son age 26 to go, who went. Although I am sure he mostly went because he was hungry for pop corn and he knew that dad would pay.

I am sitting here trying to figure out what just happened. Did I cave in, did I forget that I was the one with the suggestion, or...even better... I realized that I could be home alone for two hours... There is something great in solitude.

I could have pushed my point, I could have thrown a fit and insisted that we go to what I wanted to go to. I have done that before, and it can be hell. In a family of all boys, and yes they are all boys age 60 on down, I have learned to pick my battles. It may have appeared as though I lost, but for the next hour and a half, I think I have won.


  1. I would never let my husband get away with that ;) But I guess you can't teach an old dog new tricks.

  2. You won! I have been know to send Eric and the children to animated movies (which I find horribly boring), and have always quite enjoyed the 2 hours to myself.

  3. This is just my opinion: They were unfair and thoughtless. It was your idea and they should have either said yes or no. You are very wise to pick your battles. Do what I do - swallow hard, bite your tongue, smile, make a mental note of the infraction, and then do whatever the hell you want next time a great opportunity presents itself. Girls have more fun with girls anyway. We'll make it all up to you this summer. Plan some fun girl stuff and leave them out. It works for me everytime.

  4. Oh, you won. Well played, Aunt Deb. Well played.

  5. Did I actually figure out how to follow your blog??? I say you did your best. Somewhere inside you knew they wouldn't like your idea or they are psychic and knew you'd have plans to preplanned to outfox you. How's that? What you do is make lemonade, put your feet up and read a good book or have a nap.

  6. Sometimes guys just know how to ruin some good plans. I would have gone to my movie by myself and met up for dinner afterwards.